So you finally get a job, you know it was a hard road to get that far!
You seem to be doing well, but all of a sudden; everything seems to be wrong about the job.
The job is too far
The pay isn’t good enough
The coworkers are mean
The boss is hard on me
The coffee machine is always broke,
To early, too late, too… too….. too………
Now this is the same job that you were all excited about a couple months ago. Now it isn’t what you expected? What has changed?
What I have found is this is internal dialogue you are having with yourself.
No one else knows any of this, and of course many won’t care, since this is what you signed up for.
They didn’t move farther, they are paying you what is promised. It really becomes your perception.
You continue to convince yourself how bad it is and one day quit. Or just don’t show up.
I guess somewhere in you head you figure, I will get them, this will fix them, they won’t be able to continue with out me. The reality is you only hurt yourself.
Now I have been the employer on some of these situations and the end result is that I would never employee that person again, or recommend this person.
There is a better way, and one of the first things you need to do is communicate your internal thoughts outward to someone that might be able to help. Walking around depressed, rolling eyes, huffing and puffing doesn’t count.
Also the threat approach doesn’t work either.
Let a supervisor know that you are having issues. I have coached people in this simple step of getting out of their own head and making a presentation, that they have received raises, new time slots, more responsibility, some time off, and some times they just got the relief that some one else knows and they stop , and work on something better.
Dennis
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